Things to Consider when Planning Parenthood

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Having a baby is a big decision. Those of us that want children tend to assume that we’ll know when the time is right, but this isn’t always the case. In fact, there’s usually a lot more to it than that. A new baby changes every aspect of your life, and so you should consider many different elements before you decide to become a parent. Here are some of the things that you should think about when planning parenthood. 

Your Age 

Age perhaps isn’t as important as it used to be, and there’s certainly no specific age when it’s right to start a family, but it should be something that you think about. You’ll want to be old enough that you are comfortable with the idea of a family and young enough to cope with the physical demands of parenthood. You should also consider fertility. Human growth hormone levels peak during puberty and start to decline in our early 30s, which can be bad for fertility for those in their thirties and forties. This can apply to men and women. Hormone replacement therapies can be effective when it comes to getting pregnant.

Your Financial Situation

You don’t need to be rich to have a family, but it will certainly help if you are financially comfortable and have a stable income. How much money you need will depend on if you want to return to work or not, as well as where you live and how you want to parent. However, you should certainly be able to pay your bills comfortably. 

Your Career

Whether you want to be a working parent, or take a more extended break, your career should be a consideration. Are you in a good place to take time out? Do you feel content at work, or do you want more? It’s also worth learning about your company’s maternity policy and flexible working arrangements.

Future Plans

A baby is a long-term commitment. You might be ready now, but ask yourself where you want to be in five or even ten years. Will a child still fit into your plans? It’s also worth thinking about how many children you would like. 

Your Relationship

When it comes to your relationship there are a few things to think about. Firstly, a baby is hard work, and many new parents find that the pressure puts a strain on their relationship. A baby certainly won’t fix problems. Ask yourself if you honestly think your relationship is strong enough?

Then, you should think about your parenting styles. Do you and your partner agree on the fundamentals of raising a child? Do you have similar styles and beliefs? There are things that you can compromise on, but if either of you has particularly strong beliefs about things like discipline, religion, or schooling, then compromise might not be an option. Have an open conversation before you make your decision. 

The thing about having a baby is that there’s no right time. There’s no specific amount of money you should have in the bank, or set age that you have to be. There’s not a magic day when everything is in alignment and you’re in exactly the right place to have a baby. Choosing to extend your family is a very personal decision – the right time for your friends might not be for you, and the truth is, a lot of families are just making things work, despite the obstacles that they face. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t factor these considerations into your planning. You should certainly give them careful thought. Just don’t expect the right time to ever become completely clear.

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